Hello fam, welcome to the last week of the most love month, February has always been marked as the month of love so today’s blog is on relationships. Everyone loves love😍😍
This is going to be quite a long and interesting read.
Let me try and summarize this story.
My name is Blessing Agyei, a Christ-centered person yet ready to mingle and choose the best partner.
Back in level 300, I had a conversation with one of my Christian brothers (Nana Yaw) and he asked me what I looked out for in a man I want.
That time, I had recently learnt about the qualities you can compromise on and that which you can’t. I told him about later (someone who has a relationship with God, someone with parents(or a head he’s accountable to), one who is faithful, this and that) and I later told him about that which I look out for but I can compromise on (not fair, has a beard, tall and all that😅😅)
I asked what he looks out for and he said, first, someone who makes me happy and a few other things … I was like why not a Christian first and he replied if I will be interested in you in the first place, being a Christian is a given. If I have someone who makes me happy, I will enjoy the relationship every day.
The quality of someone who makes him happy stuck strongly with me.
When the “love” fades, the tingling feeling gone, will it be a relationship you will enjoy?
Is he or she someone who makes you happy?
I think it’s a quality everyone should look out for.
Let’s move to the main business
Some of us have the idea that because he loves me and I love him, this relationship will be a smooth ride. If you ever talk to my mother in the Lord about relationships, one thing she’ll tell you is “RELATIONSHIP IS HARD WORK”
When you see a successful relationship or marriage thrive for years, it just didn’t happen. Two people just decided to put in the work.
There will be days when you will feel like you are on cloud nine. There will be days too where you will just be there. It’s all a part of the journey.
When I told my mother in the Lord about plans to write this blog, she passed a comment that it is even unchristian to think things will be all smooth in a relationship.
Bible even says in Ecclesiastes that there’s time for everything, time to laugh, and time to cry… So it is in a relationship.
Let’s take a look at why things aren’t always rosy.
1. The fact that he’s a guy and you’re a lady: this alone is enough reason to fight or have arguments in your relationship. The way ladies think and pervasive things and how guys see things differ.
2. Lack of Communication: this may sound like a cliche but not communicating has been the cause of many failed relationships. I know because I’ve been a victim. Not communicating properly always brings up arguments in the relationship
3. Sometimes we take our partners for granted: when this happens, hurt builds up between you two. It makes the relationship grow stale as well
How can this be resolved?
Resolving these issues doesn’t mean you will have an all-rosy relationship forever. The ups and downs is all a part of it.
1. Understand that you are both different. You are from different homes, different upbringing, and different ideologies. If you accept it, you will be able to work out your differences. The goal isn’t to make the other person like you.
2. Communicate. Talk. Talk about what you want, talk about what you expect. Tell her her action didn’t sit well with you. Unless you are going out with a magician, you can’t expect your partner to know it well. So let’s talk
3. Put in the efforts we use to before the relationship began. Sometimes we become laid back and put in the effort because we have what we want. If we continue with that attitude, things will get sketchy and eventually you’ll fall off.
Relationships are not marriages yes. And you can opt-out anytime things are not going well. However, if you have this mindset, you will not be willing to put in the work.
Recently, in my quiet time, I learnt this no -matter-what-it-takes attitude from Nehemiah.
He wanted to build up the city badly so that even threats from enemies didn’t shake him. After he had prayed, they continued to work. At one point, some of the laborers worked with one hand while the other hand held a weapon. They even worked from morning to evening. This is the no -matter-what-it-takes attitude.
Putting in the work to achieve the results you desire
We should be willing to fight for the relationship we want. If you have to end things, it shouldn’t be for lack of not trying.
May the good Lord keep everyone in a relationship. May He give you the wisdom you need and may the relationship be full of joy.
And for all who seek, may you be blessed with a beautiful relationship that brings glory to God.
Thanks for staying to this point. I hope you’re blessed… Let’s get interactive in the comment section 🥰
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